By David Murrow
It’s been said that a good sermon is like a
good skirt: long enough to cover the essentials, but short enough to keep you
interested. Most pastors see preaching as their primary function. You can tell
by how they describe their calling. “I’m called to preach,” they say. You
rarely hear a minister say, “I’m called to conduct funerals,” or “I’m called to
run committee meetings,” or “I’m called to deal with cranky members.”
Since most pastors see
themselves as preachers first, they naturally want to maximize their pulpit time.
Indeed, sermon length is increasing worldwide. Yet there’s very little evidence
to suggest that longer sermons produce more mature Christians. And long,
rambling sermons are one of the main reasons men say they don’t like to go to
church.
Of all the advice I
dispense to ministers and teachers, none is more controversial than this: preach
shorter sermons. Even a mediocre preacher can be good if he shortens and
focuses his message.
I define the ideal sermon
for men as:
1) approximately ten to
fifteen minutes in length,
2) built around an object
lesson, and
3) concluding with a clear
call to action.
Needless to say, this
position has not endeared me to a lot of pastors.I recently started a
discussion around this issue on Facebook. My readers mostly disagreed with the idea
of shorter sermons. Among their comments: Maybe the men are just not saved. If
you don’t love the Word, you probably are not born of the Word. I think most
men could sit and listen attentively for hours when the message resonates
Weren’t the Lincoln/Douglas
debates like 6 hours long? And that was before women could vote, so the
audience was men. If a pastor treats his congregations, and I think especially men,
like idiots that’s the quickest way to lose them.
As David Platt would say,
15-minute sermons yield 15-minute Christians.
Likely a heart problem for
men who don’t love the wordI have been with guys that can be involved for hours
on sports, hunting, etc...without breaking focus. When we treat men like
children and cater to shorter times with them, we, regrettably condition them
to expect that is all there is.
Of all the arguments
supporting long sermons, this is the one I hear the most: Men can sit through a
3-hour football game or a 3-hour epic movie without being bored – so why can’t
they sit through a 3-hour sermon? Or a 1-hour sermon? Or even a 30-minute sermon?
Good question.
Are men just lazy when it
comes to God? Or is there something different about sport and film that allows
them to focus intently for a longer period of time? I think it’s the latter.
Here are four reasons it’s easier for men to focus on a lengthy game or a film
than a lengthy sermon.
If you’re a pastor who
wants to lengthen his sermons, consider these touch points of male engagement:
1. Sports and movies are built
upon surprises.
We go to a movie hoping to
be surprised. We don’t want to know the ending. Uncertainty produces the
thrill. This is why, when we talk about a movie we’ve seen, we say, “Spoiler
alert!” We don’t want to ruin the fun for our friends. Once they know how a
movie is going to turn out, the less likely they are to enjoy it. Same with
sports. The best games are those that could go either way. But the stinker
games are the blowouts – when a superior team man handles a weaker team.
Case in point: when the
undefeated Denver Broncos played the winless Jacksonville Jaguars in October,
the game barely attracted notice. But when the 8-1 Broncos faced the 9-0 Kansas
City Chiefs November 17, the game was moved into prime time on Sunday Night’s
national broadcast. My point? The Jags game was ignored because everyone knew
who would win. But the Chiefs game drew huge ratings because the outcome was
uncertain. Men love to be surprised.
2. Sports and movies are built
around conflict.
Think of your favorite
movie. I guarantee it’s built around a conflict. There’s an injustice being done.
A bad guy wreaking havoc on society. Just when everything seems bleak, a hero
(or heroes) step forward to set things right. Even comedies with thin plots are
built around conflict. Same with sports.
All modern sports are built
around defense of a goal area (the end zone, the net, home plate, etc.) Each
team is trying to conquer the other team’s goal, while defending its own goal.
The only major professional sport that doesn’t follow this model is golf, a gentleman’s
game that appeals more to older men. Men love conflict.
3. Sports and movies are
visually stimulating.
In the case of both sports
and film, there’s a lot to see. Sports features balls and bodies flying through
the air. There are uniforms, cheerleaders and crazily-dressed fans. Video
screens feature instant replay and entertaining video clips.
In the case of film there
are lots of objects moving through space, explosions, and attractive actors
doing heroic things. The special effects revolution has only increased the
visual impact of films. Men love visual stimulation.
4. Sports and movies create
audience buy-in.
My wife and I saw the space
survival movie Gravity last weekend. It’s a very good movie because it draws
you into the narrative and forces you to encounter the big questions men
grapple with: What would I do if I were marooned in space? Would I be able to
survive? Could I pilot an unfamiliar space craft and land safely on Earth? Men
care most deeply about football games when one of “their teams” is playing. For
example, my 10-1 Baylor Bears are taking on the University of Texas Longhorns
this Saturday. I’m taking 4 hours out of my weekend to watch that game. Why?
Because I graduated from Baylor. I would not invest 4 hours of my life to watch
UCF vs. SMU or even Auburn vs. Missouri. Why? Because I’m not bought into those
teams. I have no connection to them so their game does not interest me. Men
love buy-in.
FootballFansBefore we get
into specifics, let me blow up a myth: men don’t really sit through threehour
football games. They end up moving around a lot. They visit the concession
stand for overpriced beer and nachos. They cheer when their team does something
unexpected. Or if they’re watching at home they get up and make a sandwich
during halftime and TV timeouts.
Sermons are different. They
don’t have a pause button. There’s no intermission or halftime. You can’t really
even go to the bathroom unless it’s urgent. Men are stuck – and they know it.
What can preachers and
teachers borrow from sports and movies to make their sermons more engaging to
men? Here are four observations, based on my previous post:
1. Sports and movies are built
upon surprise, but sermons are utterly predictable.
If I may be brutally
honest: most sermons are mind-numbingly predictable. Not in content, but in format.
The pastor stands up and speaks. He reads from the Bible. Then he speaks some
more. As hen concludes, he might ask us to commit our lives to God.
Then we sing. It’s more
than just the sermon. I worship in churches all over the world, and most church
services are utterly predictable. Nothing unexpected ever happens.
They all follow the same
basic script: opening song, announcements, more singing, then a sermon, then
another song or two, then an offering, then we socialize for about 3 minutes
and go home.
The elements are always the
same – the only thing that changes from one congregation to the next is the order
in which they’re scheduled. Where’s the adventure in that?
An effective preacher or
teacher works hard to surprise his audience. You can too. It’s easy. Set something
on fire. Splash water on the congregation. Take questions from the audience. Too
wild? OK, try this. Next Sunday, come out from behind the pulpit. If that goes
well, then walk down the center aisle while you’re preaching. Whoa! Big chance you’re taking! For God’s sake DO
SOMETHING CREATIVE AND UNEXPECTED!
The one constant in the
Bible is that when God shows up, people were surprised. The unexpected happened.
The Bible says that the crowds were astonished at Jesus’ teaching. When is the
last time you left church feeling astonished by something that happened? When
were you the least bit surprised?
2. Sports and movies are built
around conflict. But our churches avoid conflict.
Have you noticed that
everything is always great at church? We stand in front of the congregation and
lie about our lives. How blessed we are. How perfect everything is. Yet men are
drawn to a story of conflict. This is why a raw, scary testimony is one of the
keys to reaching men. Why raw truth and honest confession pierces men’s
defenses.
Preachers and teachers
should be honest about conflict. And they should tell stories that revolve around
conflict to illustrate their teaching.
3. Sports and movies are
visually stimulationg. But most sermons are visually boring.
In 90% of sermons there’s
absolutely no visual content at all. Nothing. The only thing to see is the preacher.
The only thing that moves is the Bible, waving in the air, its gold leaf pages
shimmering like a lure in search of a trout.
Thankfully, some preachers
have begun using PowerPoint slides to accompany their sermons. But unfortunately
most of these are just text. Death by bullet point.
However, a few wise
communicators have begun incorporating images and video into their sermons. They
build their talks around a strong visual metaphor.
Are you media illiterate
preacher? Fine. Simply bring an object lesson into the pulpit every week. EVERY
WEEK. Relate the object to your sermon. If you do this, within three years
you’ll have a church full of men.
4. Sports and movies create
audience buy-in. But sermons often create buy-out.
What do I mean? A dull
preacher just gets up and gives Bible facts. But a skilled preacher or teacher
tells a compelling story. He draws you into the narrative.
He skillfully uses parables
and illustrations to make you forget your listening to a sermon.I’ve only
scratched the surface of this important topic. If you do these things you can
preach a lot longer without boring your men
David Murrow is the
director of Church for Men, an organization that helps congregations reach more
men and boys. In his day job, David works as a television producer and writer.
He’s the author of three books. He lives in Alaska with his wife, three
children, two grandchildren and a dachshund named Pepper